I met a widow yesterday. It’s been four years for her.

She lost not only her husband but her relationship with her son.

We talked about how that felt. Because her sadness was so evident, I shared with her the most important words I learned during my coach training, “Up until now.” Four very powerful syllables that mean if everything you’re doing “up until now” is working for you, keep doing what you’re doing. If “Up until now” it’s not, this is the moment in time to change it.

No one else can do it for you.

It takes courage. It’s all about taking one small step after another.

I know she can do it….

Two of my dear friends have lost their sons. At lunch one day we started talking about which is worse. Child or spouse. We decided that no loss is worse than another. It’s painful; and the healing is a journey one must must make for oneself.

Loss leaves a giant hole that cannot filled by something or someone else. It takes time to figure out how to put one foot in front of another…to find joy again. To smile.

We all agreed it was worth the effort.

We all agreed there is so much worth moving on for.

We all agreed we’re glad we did the work.

We all agreed having friends to share with mean so much.