May 18, 2007

You make a difference!

Filed under: Words of Inspiration — bryna @ 4:40 am

This is a great story. I read it on My Daily Insights, a newsletter I subscribe to, on 12/08/06. I want the phrase “You make a difference!” to resonate with widows/widowers everywhere.

A high school teacher decided to honorall of her students by telling them the difference they each made. She called each student to the front of the class, one at a time. First she told each of them how they had made a difference to her and the class.

Then she presented each of them with a blue ribbon imprinted with gold letters, which read, ‘Who I Am Makes a Difference.’

Afterwards the teacher decided to do a class project to see what kind of impact recognition would have on a community. She gave each of the students three more ribbons and instructed them to go out and spread this acknowledgment ceremony. Then they were to follow up on the results, see who honored whom and report back to the class in about a week.

One of the boys in the class went to a junior executive in a nearby company and honored him for helping him with his career planning. He gave him a blue ribbon and put it on his shirt.

Then he gave him two extra ribbons and said, ‘We’re doing a class project on recognition, and we’d like you to go out, find somebody to honor, give them a blue ribbon, then give them the extra blue ribbon so they can acknowledge a third person to keep this acknowledgment ceremony going. Then please report back to me and tell me what happened.’

Later that day the junior executive went in to see his boss, who had been noted, by the way, as being kind of a grouchy fellow. He sat his boss down and he told him that he deeply admired him for being a creative genius.

The boss seemed very surprised. The junior executive asked him if he would accept the gift of the blue ribbon and would he give him permission to put it on him. His surprised boss said, ‘Well sure.’ The junior executive took the blue ribbon and placed it right on his boss’s jacket above his heart. As he gave him the last extra ribbon, he said, ‘Would you do me a favor? Would you take this extra ribbon and pass it on by honoring somebody else? The young boy who first gave me the ribbons is doing a project in school and we want to keep this recognition ceremony going and find out how it affects people.’

That night the boss came home to his 14-year old son and sat him down. He said, ‘The most incredible thing happened to me today. I was in my office and one of the junior executives came in and told me he admired me and gave me a blue ribbon for being a creative genius. Imagine. He thinks I’m creative genius.’

Then he put this blue ribbon that says, ‘Who I Am Makes A Difference’ on my jacket above my heart. He gave me an extra ribbon and asked me to find somebody else to honor. As I was driving home tonight, I started thinking about whom I would honor with this ribbon and thought of you. I want to honor you. My days are really hectic and when I come home I don’t pay a lot of attention to you.

Sometimes I scream at you for not getting good enough grades in school and for your bedroom being a mess, but somehow tonight, I just wanted to sit here and, well, just let you know that you do make a difference to me. Besides your mother, you are the most important person in my life. You’re a great kid and I love you!’

The startled boy started to sob and sob, and he couldn’t stop crying. His whole body shook. He looked up at his father and said through his tears, ‘I was planning on committing suicide tomorrow, Dad, because I didn’t think you loved me. Now I know you care. This is the happiest day I’ve known.’

The boss went back to work a changed man. He was no longer a grouch but made sure to let all his employees know that they made a difference.

The junior executive helped several other young people with career planning and never forgot to let them know that they made a difference in his life - one being the boss’ son. And the young boy and his classmates learned a valuable lesson.

So who you are DOES make a difference and I wanted you to know that.

Sent to you as a courtesy of…

Michele Caron, Life/Career Coach

May 13, 2007

Recommended Reading

Filed under: Recommended Reading — bryna @ 3:55 pm

1. The Four Things That Matter Most
Dr. Ira Byock
Please, Thank You, Forgive me and I forgive you. Four words that can change a life.

2. Widow
Dr. Joyce Brothers
Honest, touching book on her own story by the respected psychologist.

3. How to Go on Living when Someone You Love Dies
Therese A. Rando
Some wonderful suggestions. It was the first one I read…

4. When Bad Things Happen to Good People
Rabbi Harold Kushner
Best-selling book based on his own story. Read around the globe.

5. The Grief Recovery Handbook
John W. James
Offering grievers the speciific actions needed to complete the grieving process and accept loss.

6. Smart Women Finish Rich
David Bach
Good, basic information for women of any age having to take care of themselves, with or without partners.

Filed under: Recommended Reading — bryna @ 3:52 pm


May 4, 2007

How to connect…

Filed under: Lesson of the day — bryna @ 5:54 am

Wit can help us connect with people outside of our familiarity because humor is one of the few gifts we can share with individuals we have only just met. A joke or funny anecdote can bring together two or more people, creating an enjoyable experience that is not dependent on the need for a common purpose or background. Wit serves to unite us in a variety of circumstances. Whether we are attempting to convey a specific message or simply want to connect through conversation, humor can play an important role part in our delivery. As we engage others in this way, they will come to appreciate both our openness and our personable attitude.

One’s ability to use humor will help you win the trust of individuals in your personal and professional spheres today.

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